Why Ditch the Good Girl?
November 1st, 2012
Are you a good girl, a people pleaser? Isn’t it soul numbing to worry what everyone else thinks about you? Would you like to find a better way without being labeled a Bad Girl? Want to find more fun in your life and ditch the good girl, but aren’t sure how?
First, stop following the rules, pleasing everyone but yourself, and squishing down to fit in.
The road to more fun and finding the original you, is to ditch the worry habit. When you are more concerned about what others are saying than what really turns you on, you’re give them a piece of yourself. To quote Alanis Morrissette, “Isn’t it ironic?” we work hard to be liked by people we don’t even like. It’s kinda crazy making, right?
How you can overcome being a “Good Girl”. The truth is you ditch the Good Girl when you a Grow Up. My experience was often painful with a lot of reflection on my actions, deciding the type of person I wanted to be, and owning my past including my mistakes. My decision to take responsibility for my life allowed me to take my power back…no one to blame except myself, and then move on to forgiveness.
A Grown Woman Mantra
I make my own decisions
I manage my own life
I follows my own path
I own my own power
There’s an element of risk involved here. Learn to embrace risk- it leads to developing your courage and confidence muscles both of which are crucial in owing your personal and profession life. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want – you just might get it.
Often as women, we don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings so we hem and haw and don’t take a stand which makes you powerless and a victim of others.
At the end of your life do you want to look back at what you could have done or all you accomplished in this big, wonderful, and glorious world.
As Mae West said many years ago, “Good girls go to Heaven, and bad girls go everywhere else.” You don’t have to be a bad girl to go everywhere else you just have to toss your Good Girl hat off and start living your own life.
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